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All the pictures above describe a separate story.It talks about how process of parenting commences from the time when a woman conceives .These 9 months of conception are very crucial for the development and growth of the child in the womb and Mother feels lot of internal or external changes .It’s tough for her to groom a child for the period of nine months when she doesn’t know how and who it would be??≠still her parental skills which she has inherited from her mother and her mother in law or her elders work as a magic .She listens to them and follows verbal and nonverbal ways of parenting.We can see example of parenting of The Great warrior Abhimanyu from our holy granthas . It teaches us that parenting is a constant process for a child developing in the womb. Whatever ,a would be mother, thinks or does, it ultimately affects the baby and hence Indian Ayurveda specifically talks about the “Garbh Sanskaar “as a ritual for women who are becoming mother for the very first time.
Second phase of parenting begins after the birth of the child. When the mother nurtures her child by taking good care of the baby .First 8 months are very tough for the new mothers as they have to face all the teething problems .May be it is related to growth or development or whether baby is reacting or not ? Is he or she able to listen , understand or respond ?With all this she also has to feed the baby and decide the routine and timetable of the little one.She is busy through out the day .She sleeps when baby sleeps and rest of the time her Parenting continues.
Phase 3 is when child is able to walk ,stand run and even starts speaking .Here again a good parenting demands Following three things :. 1- How to speak? 2-How much to speak ? 3-What to speak? During this period the child has very good observatory and imitation sense and he or she can easily follow the footprints of their elders.Here parents are required to be exactly the same they want their child to be .For example it they want their child to be sober and polite they have to be sober and polite as well.Their way of speaking ,their tone and voice modulations are copied very well by their child .I have seen people complaining of their child’s conduct in public .My answer to this is that if you are harsh with people in public the child comprehends the same and practises the same.There are parents who are blessed to have obedient and very good children they follow what their parents tell.They are trained in such a way that they follow and listen to their parents.It all depends on the training of parents.
Children grow up and now as they grow with age they face many challenges.And even Parenting becomes a challenge for Parents.Now every parent expect an age appropriate behaviour from their child but some are able to get it whereas some are unable to do it.And here the Parenting comes to a Question mark. In this situation parents get complaints from every where consequently it distorts the identity of child it shatters his or her Self Esteem.Here patience and introspection are the key to overcome this challenge.
Parenting of Teens is the trickiest because teenage itself is a period of strikes and Strom so parents have to practise what they preach they have to show their calm,polite , loving and a very concerned behaviour and a very sober way of speaking ,talking and even putting up their argument.This is the time when teens Easily Get hostile. If not treated with love and compassion they turn to be Aggressive, Argumentative, disrespectful,harsh and impolite.This is the time when Parents have to be a doer rather than being a preacher. Thus here they have to be in action mode because Action speaks louder than the words.
Period of teens end up in (19) nineteen years bringing a big change in the personality, attitude ,lifestyle and towards new stage of life that is Youth.
Youth is the beginning of enjoying fruits of teenage .It’s very simple to understand that if you have done hard work in teens than it is the right time to enjoy the success of people place and personality.
It is said “as you think so you become. Whatever you do, it returns back to you.As a parent of an infant,child,adolescent and Teen you also grow n develop in good or bad,conditional or unconditional ,easy or tough parenting .Time teaches you all the lessons .When you become a parent of a youth it’s again challenging as well as interesting because child carries his own perception,ideology , likes or dislikes,he or she has strong thought process and sound knowledge in the particular areas of his choices.These young minds can be explorers,thinkers, presenters or orators.They grow as fearless person due to experience of latest technology and skills they are equipped with and so they know their value and importance both. When parents talk to them they feel delighted to expose their talent here parents are advised to trust,them.This bond of trust can be a winning point of relationship and most of the time children speak what they have in heart and it creates a thick bond between parents and children.
Parenting must include understanding,love, care, freedom to argue in a healthy manner, fearlessness in sharing and putting views.listening to each other patiently without framing or forming an opinion,or being judgemental .These small steps lead towards a healthy n strong relationship.life is how we make it and Parenting is what parents perform for the child to make him a Successful And happy Human Being.Enjoy parenting and learn from your live experiences .Constant learning leads to confidence and happy life.Now you decide whether Parenting is an Art or a challenge.??
From a Mother and a teacher
Love you all
Bindu.
Love you all
BINDU k pancholi.
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